Cuti dulu...inshaAllah kita mau pindah rumah hari ini...
The shipment, udah ada di bag custome & akan di kirim ke rumah baru inshaAllah siang ini.
Excited..excited...!!!. Will tell you all about it later inshaAllah !!.
Tata for now...
Deasy.x
Monday, December 10, 2007
Thursday, December 6, 2007
Polygamy di mata saya...
Honestly,ngedenger kata -katanya aja aku udah takut duluan......
Berawal ketika pindah ke kuwait.Suami cerita kl temen kantornya(he's syrian),baru aja nikah lagi (dgn his 2nd wives,sesama syrian).Btw,di middle east polygamy itu adalah hal yg biasa. Often you heard this guy has 2 wives or this guy has 3 wives...
Anyway, semenjak dgr cerita ttg this syrian brother ,gw selalu kepikiran ttg polygamy. Sampe2 nge-research sendiri ttg polygamy on the islam website,etc..etc....
well,kenapa kepikiran ???karena jujur gw taaaakuuuuuuttt kalo tiba-tiba hubby minta nikah lagi....
Inget girls, this is something permissable in Islam(untuk laki2 nikah & punya istri 4).End Quote.Gak bisa ditawar lagi.
So yang ada gw teken/put pressure on hubby,... ini kata-kata mutiara gw setiap hari nya....
'Darling,are you planning to get another ISTRI lagi?',Darling,do u still love me?,Darling,cinta kamu ama aku nambah lagi atau kurang????Darling,what do you want me to do to make you happy????(baca:gak cari cewek lain),Darling...I think I'm having nerves breakdown thinking about this....(sumpah kepala ampe nyut-nyut tan..).
Hubby sendiri sampe capek ngeladenin gw....'Listen darling, I'm not planning to'...'I'm not looking for ISTRI baru....'I love you so much...I cant live without you 'n the kids' ...bla...bla..bla..
Anyway,masih dalam keadaan ling-lung tadi saya tanpa sengaja mampir ke blog nya senaz. Disitu senaz kebetulan lagi cerita ttg salah satu sister(yg kebetulan jadi first wife),hidup dalam polygamy. Wah...kebetulan nih,akhirnya minta ama senaz (web adds sister itu).
Oh....mashaAllah,ngebaca cerita ttg sister V ini bener-bener (apa yah...)kaget,kagum,sedih,aahhhh pokoknya campur jadi satu. Gimana sih dia bisa sharing hubby dia dgn perempuan lain?HOW?.
Gak akan ada perempuan di dunia ini yg gak JEALOUS,semua pasti jealous.
This woman is so amazing,her imaan must be that high....dia selalu bilang dia mau begini karena for the sake's of ALLAH.MashaAllah....May Allah grants her a ticket to jannah!!!.
Anyway back to deasy.....
kalo saya gimana gak super jealous....?hubby main dgn gadget barunya aja marah,hubby main kelamaan ama anak2 juga marah,hubby gak sms/telp marah, ini apalagi kalo dia harus spend one night dgn istri baru???ya Allah,ya rabbiii saya gak tau harus gimana. I'm going to be crazzzyyyy!.
Sekarang kalo dipikir pake akal sehat(secara agama),no matter how my HUBBY janji gak planning/looking cari istri baru,but If Allah's will and polygamy is already written on my hubby's QADR( punya istri lagi).. harus bagimana kah saya??.
Mungkin gw bisa lari dari kenyataan ,but I cant hide from what Allah has planned for me...so hanya ada 2 options:
1.Gw blackmailing ngin hubby,ok darling pilih aku & anak2 atau DIA...(well of course option ini from shaytan...).
2.Terima keadaan,put FAITH in Allah,nangis untuk 1 tahun-non stop,depresssss untuk seumur hidup,but inshaAllah I'll go to jannah for being SABAR(menghadapi trial).
Oh my Lord..saya bener-bener gak tau harus gimana...(see, this polygamy thing really affected me.BIG TIME).May Allah give the best for me,kids n hubby.
The more I learn about islam,the more Allah open my eyes....mashaAllah.
Kalo kita baca blog these sisters yg punya co-wives(pls kalo ada waktu kalian baca),mashaAllah ..mashaAllah ...mereka bener-bener strong. Kadang-kadang gw mikir,mereka human bukan sih?.Apa Allah kasih cobaan ini hanya untuk perempuan yg pious??? .
Oya,ada yg suaminya nikah lagi dan gak ngasih tau the first wife.....tau tau,'hey darling this is my second wife..'.
Gw juga bingung dgn brother yg seperti ini. He wants to follow sunnah by marrying beberapa istri,tapi on the other hand dia gak bisa treat istri pertamanya with(kind treatment). Sedangkan ada di quran ' LIVE WITH THEM(istri) HONOURABLY' so surely,dia harus respect her,kasih tau lah sebelumnya(walaupun itu allowed buat suami nikah lagi,dan gak harus minta ijin dari istri pertama).
Anyway,gak tau kenapa setelah saya belajar ttg polygamy ini Allah has put more love and affection in my heart and my hubby's heart,mashaAllah....mashaAllah (this is such a blessing).Kita jadi lebih sayaaaaaang to one another,kalo dia tidur gw suka liatin dia,selalu cuddle walaupun lagi tidur,selalu holding hand(di mobil,lagi makan,nonton),selalu sending nice mssgs....pokoknya kita berdua mencoba bersyukur . In my case, saya bersyukur karena sampai saat ini 'I can have him ONLY for myself'(inshaAllah untuk selamanya,sampai ajal kita ber 2 tiba). Gw gak mau take him for granted....
He's a good muslim-committed to his religion,he is such a lovely ,caring and a good looking hubby,mashaAllah...
I love him dearly and I dont want to share this creature with anyone...(btw,I wonder if this du'a allowed in islam? lol).Pls forgive me ya Allah.
Anyway girls..pls love ur hubby and treat him well ....May Allah guide us all & make us a pious ISTRI!.
Berawal ketika pindah ke kuwait.Suami cerita kl temen kantornya(he's syrian),baru aja nikah lagi (dgn his 2nd wives,sesama syrian).Btw,di middle east polygamy itu adalah hal yg biasa. Often you heard this guy has 2 wives or this guy has 3 wives...
Anyway, semenjak dgr cerita ttg this syrian brother ,gw selalu kepikiran ttg polygamy. Sampe2 nge-research sendiri ttg polygamy on the islam website,etc..etc....
well,kenapa kepikiran ???karena jujur gw taaaakuuuuuuttt kalo tiba-tiba hubby minta nikah lagi....
Inget girls, this is something permissable in Islam(untuk laki2 nikah & punya istri 4).End Quote.Gak bisa ditawar lagi.
So yang ada gw teken/put pressure on hubby,... ini kata-kata mutiara gw setiap hari nya....
'Darling,are you planning to get another ISTRI lagi?',Darling,do u still love me?,Darling,cinta kamu ama aku nambah lagi atau kurang????Darling,what do you want me to do to make you happy????(baca:gak cari cewek lain),Darling...I think I'm having nerves breakdown thinking about this....(sumpah kepala ampe nyut-nyut tan..).
Hubby sendiri sampe capek ngeladenin gw....'Listen darling, I'm not planning to'...'I'm not looking for ISTRI baru....'I love you so much...I cant live without you 'n the kids' ...bla...bla..bla..
Anyway,masih dalam keadaan ling-lung tadi saya tanpa sengaja mampir ke blog nya senaz. Disitu senaz kebetulan lagi cerita ttg salah satu sister(yg kebetulan jadi first wife),hidup dalam polygamy. Wah...kebetulan nih,akhirnya minta ama senaz (web adds sister itu).
Oh....mashaAllah,ngebaca cerita ttg sister V ini bener-bener (apa yah...)kaget,kagum,sedih,aahhhh pokoknya campur jadi satu. Gimana sih dia bisa sharing hubby dia dgn perempuan lain?HOW?.
Gak akan ada perempuan di dunia ini yg gak JEALOUS,semua pasti jealous.
This woman is so amazing,her imaan must be that high....dia selalu bilang dia mau begini karena for the sake's of ALLAH.MashaAllah....May Allah grants her a ticket to jannah!!!.
Anyway back to deasy.....
kalo saya gimana gak super jealous....?hubby main dgn gadget barunya aja marah,hubby main kelamaan ama anak2 juga marah,hubby gak sms/telp marah, ini apalagi kalo dia harus spend one night dgn istri baru???ya Allah,ya rabbiii saya gak tau harus gimana. I'm going to be crazzzyyyy!.
Sekarang kalo dipikir pake akal sehat(secara agama),no matter how my HUBBY janji gak planning/looking cari istri baru,but If Allah's will and polygamy is already written on my hubby's QADR( punya istri lagi).. harus bagimana kah saya??.
Mungkin gw bisa lari dari kenyataan ,but I cant hide from what Allah has planned for me...so hanya ada 2 options:
1.Gw blackmailing ngin hubby,ok darling pilih aku & anak2 atau DIA...(well of course option ini from shaytan...).
2.Terima keadaan,put FAITH in Allah,nangis untuk 1 tahun-non stop,depresssss untuk seumur hidup,but inshaAllah I'll go to jannah for being SABAR(menghadapi trial).
Oh my Lord..saya bener-bener gak tau harus gimana...(see, this polygamy thing really affected me.BIG TIME).May Allah give the best for me,kids n hubby.
The more I learn about islam,the more Allah open my eyes....mashaAllah.
Kalo kita baca blog these sisters yg punya co-wives(pls kalo ada waktu kalian baca),mashaAllah ..mashaAllah ...mereka bener-bener strong. Kadang-kadang gw mikir,mereka human bukan sih?.Apa Allah kasih cobaan ini hanya untuk perempuan yg pious??? .
Oya,ada yg suaminya nikah lagi dan gak ngasih tau the first wife.....tau tau,'hey darling this is my second wife..'.
Gw juga bingung dgn brother yg seperti ini. He wants to follow sunnah by marrying beberapa istri,tapi on the other hand dia gak bisa treat istri pertamanya with(kind treatment). Sedangkan ada di quran ' LIVE WITH THEM(istri) HONOURABLY' so surely,dia harus respect her,kasih tau lah sebelumnya(walaupun itu allowed buat suami nikah lagi,dan gak harus minta ijin dari istri pertama).
Anyway,gak tau kenapa setelah saya belajar ttg polygamy ini Allah has put more love and affection in my heart and my hubby's heart,mashaAllah....mashaAllah (this is such a blessing).Kita jadi lebih sayaaaaaang to one another,kalo dia tidur gw suka liatin dia,selalu cuddle walaupun lagi tidur,selalu holding hand(di mobil,lagi makan,nonton),selalu sending nice mssgs....pokoknya kita berdua mencoba bersyukur . In my case, saya bersyukur karena sampai saat ini 'I can have him ONLY for myself'(inshaAllah untuk selamanya,sampai ajal kita ber 2 tiba). Gw gak mau take him for granted....
He's a good muslim-committed to his religion,he is such a lovely ,caring and a good looking hubby,mashaAllah...
I love him dearly and I dont want to share this creature with anyone...(btw,I wonder if this du'a allowed in islam? lol).Pls forgive me ya Allah.
Anyway girls..pls love ur hubby and treat him well ....May Allah guide us all & make us a pious ISTRI!.
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